4 biggest reasons you need to stop calling Trump voters stupid, racists, sexists, etc.

People need to stop suggesting that all Trump supporters are racists, misogynists, or worst–or even that by voting for them, they’re okay with those things. Some of them are, but here are a few things you need to think about:

1. You might think that, you might be right, but you sure as hell don’t know that:

 Mostly just because acting like you know why fifty million people did a thing, or think about a thing, when you were fucking positive they weren’t even going to do that thing three days is . . . arrogant? Stupid? Pathetic? Pick your adjective, either way, who are you kidding?
It might play well in whatever echo chamber you’re living in, but it makes you look like a total goofus to anyone, conservative, moderate, or liberal, who isn’t losing their minds right now. Seriously, you just ran headfirst into a situation that proved you didn’t have a good handle on what people were thinking, and your next move is to claim you have it all figured out?
Naw. In fact there are some pretty good indications you’re way off base here.

2. No one agrees with everything their candidate says, does, and represents:

You know that. Come on, seriously now, you know that. You don’t need me to tell you this.
If your wife or girlfriend voted for Hillary, it’s probably not a tacit signal that she’ll forgive you for getting a blowjob from an intern. Feel free to test that theory, but my gut says no.
Should moderates and conservatives take the democratic vote in kind, and assume that all Democrats are in favor of moving all of our national secrets to servers in their bathrooms as a policy?
Or, retroactively, that anyone who thinks FDR was a good President, you think we should racially segregate our cities.
It’s dumb, and most the people saying it are smart enough to know it’s dumb. Seems more like people who lost trying to convince themselves it was only because they’re so much better and purer than everyone else, and not because anyone has real, logical, substantive misgivings about their policies or the behaviors of the party leaders.
Important Note: If you did vote for Trump, this is a great time to reach and reassure people that your reasons were whatever they were, and you don’t agree with his rhetoric regarding women or minorities.
But wait, there’s more!

3. It’s harming the people it’s trying to help:

No one has a clue what Trump is going to do. That’s one of the several reasons I declined to vote for the guy. That said, no one has any clue what Trump is going to do. 

Telling all the minorities that he’s going to deport them, hate crime their families, abolish gay marriage, and dig up their dead grandmothers to make drums from their skins is nothing but, and nothing short of, bullying vulnerable people in order to frighten them.

It’s a sick, sad thing to do.

Now, I’m not saying that the LGBTQ and other minority communities don’t have reasons to fear. But fear is worse than nothing; it actively robs us of reason and happiness. Being afraid is a natural reaction, but it is almost always the wrong reaction, and stoking it is irresponsible.

If you’re a member of a minority, remember that there are no more people against you in this country today than there were a week ago, and, statistically, fewer. People who voted, people who didn’t, and even people who voted for people you didn’t like are on your side and we’ve got your back. Remember that courage, understanding, and a willingness to calmly reach out to people who see you as different will do more than anything else ever could to show them that we are all the same in the ways that matter.

If you’re not a minority, remember this is a time when minorities in this country are feeling vulnerable and afraid, and not without reason. So don’t be a total asshat by stoking their fears. This is the time to tell them, “If you feel threatened or harassed, I’m here, and I’ll do what I can to help.”

In other words, answer fear with courage, and hate with kindness; that is going to matter more over the next few than either candidate’s victory or platform would.

4. Calling people racists, sexists, and so on doesn’t help you change things:

Imagine, for a moment, you’re trying to balance your checkbook, and I’m an accountant, and I decide you’re doing it wrong.

“Hey racist,” I tell you, “shut your stupid ignorant racist mouth and let me do this for you.”

You say, “Thanks, pal!” right?

No. No, you do not. Because this is not how we engage people. You look stupid when you do this, because you are actively undercutting the cause you’re attempt to support. 

Let me take a moment to drive this point home: If you are saying something completely true in a way that alienates people you need on your side, you are wrong. You wrong, because you are improving the position of those who are wrong, via your actions.

You’re the guy pushing on the door that says “pull” while also screaming, “I am smarter than all of you!”

It’s . .  . well, it’s just not a pretty picture okay.

The right reaction to meeting someone who’s racist is helping them to see how and why they’re wrong, and protecting anyone who needs protection from their actions.

Also, it’s un-American–not to protest, mind you, which is the essence of America, but to label the half of the country you disagree with as evil because you disagree.

Or, to put this another way: If what’s been on display the past few days is the best liberals have got to offer, you deserved to lose. Even to Trump.

Be better.

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  1. JR says:

    Keep in mind that politicians and media personalities have a vested interest in inflaming any political debate or discourse. You can consider them the international arms dealers of the culture war, selling slogans as ammunition and encouraging extreme positions as a way of piling up the casualties. These folks are collecting large salaries, not to mention the book deals, for making sure that peace and understanding have no seat at the table.

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